Connection – Part 1

The opposite of materialism isn’t minimalism, it’s connection.

I used to strive for simplicity. I read all the self-help books, cleared away a lot of the clutter, and implemented changes meant to streamline my life. Many of them stuck, and things got somewhat simpler. But there wasn’t an internal shift.

I found Charles Wagner’s timeless book “The Simple Life” somewhere along the way. And while the answer was there, even then I couldn’t internalize it. He suggested a life that is mission-focused becomes less complicated naturally. As we pursue what matters, the extraneous loses its luster.

The past few years have been a time for me to dig deep. As I chose excerpts from Wagner’s book to include in my own book “A Vital Simplicity”, the messages rang true for me. And as I grow older, I’m reflecting on my life and envisioning what the future might become. I find myself drawn to minimalism from the inside instead of putting external pressures on myself. And the concept of connection keeps coming up.

Work out your mission – Charles Wagner

The internal transformation began for me when I connected to my mission. It’s personal to me, but it involves being of service to others. I’m careful to recognize that writing is an ability of mine but not the end goal. Writing is a simply tool that is useful in the pursuit of this aim, and it also brings me joy in the process.

How did I get clarity around my purpose? The focus I needed was born out of connection to three things:

– My Higher Power
– Other People
– Nature

In my next three blog posts, I’ll dive into each of these and share my experiences. The evolving result is that I am naturally inclined to spend my time and energy on lasting pleasures rather than instant gratification.

We must pursue who and what we are created to be with more fervor than we pursue material prosperity – Charles Wagner

While I’m still finding my way, I can say with conviction that the change I sought for so long is coming naturally now that I am in the flow of life and finding true connections at last. I’m hoping you’ll join me and reflect on your own experiences as we learn and grow together.

Emotions

The past 8 days have been filled with emotion for me. It started last Saturday with my granddaughter’s quinceanera (15th birthday celebration) in Ecuador. She was a princess, and the party was lively and exciting – a recognition that this sweet young lady is growing up before our eyes.

Two days later another granddaughter had her first baby. There were complications that made us fearful, but we welcomed a healthy, precious little girl, and mom and baby are doing well.

Today I attended a funeral. A loved one lost her father, and the service was a testament to the truth that our story isn’t set in stone. As long as we have breath, our lives can change course.

And today also happens to be my daddy’s birthday. He would have been 100. Though he left this earth many years ago, his love is imprinted on the hearts of his children. I am forever grateful I got to be his daughter.

I tend toward the emotional, and this week I’ve felt all the feelings. And I emerge grateful for family, for love, and for a life of possibilities.

She is a vision in lavender
A princess surrounded by her subjects
She speaks words of gratitude
And dances the night away
Our little girl all grown up

She comes to me in pain
As labor sets upon her
Our excitement is tinged with fear
But her healthy baby comes
A miracle in her mother’s loving arms

They take turns in the service
Each speaking of the man they knew
Not all the same but evolving
His life a testament to the truth
That change is always possible

I remember the man
Strong yet gentle, guiding my path
He was the best of fathers
Taken from us far too soon
His presence – however short – a priceless gift

I have seen it all this week
Struggling birth to surrendering death
And celebrations of milestones in between
I am reminded to savor these moments
To hold on a little tighter
And speak more words of love
For as long as I am given breath

Connected

We are connected
Joined by our blood and bones
And we think we decide
With our hearts and minds
But it doesn’t work that way
Our lives are intertwined
Even if our eyes see this world
Differently

The connection doesn’t end there
It finds its way to the creatures
In the sea and air and on land
As they share this planet with us
Even our attempts to dominate
Don’t diminish the power they wield
As they roam this place with
Majesty

Our feet touch this earth
And we feel it underneath
But don’t recognize how
It flows through our very bodies
Nature sends its sweet breath
Into our open lungs
And nourishes us with
Beauty

I wonder if we’ll ever get it?
That reducing life –
Attempting to diminish its importance –
Only diminishes us?
My hope is that we eventually find
Our lives become satisfying only when
We learn to embrace this full and vital
Connection